After rereading the previous blog on this topic, I wondered if human interaction and face to face contact are necessary and if so why. I know speaking personally that when I have been by myself, 24/7 I have been less than happy. Having others around and interacting with them seems to fill a primary human need. Lonliness is a major cause of depression.
Think about the fact that isolation and solitary confinement are punishments for prisoners. Babies left unattended in orphanages suffer serious damage to their psyches. For most, continuous solitude can cause a decompensation that threatens the minds ability to remain stable. It seems a most natural behavior to seek out others for contact and communication ( except for some in the park in which I walk!).
But here is an interesting twist to the tale. Many find old friends on Face Book,My Space or whatever and then meet up with them in person. These reunions would not likely have happened if not facilitated by the internet. So, sometimes the impersonal leads to personal. That is a very healthy and positive outcome. I hope you enjoy that experience.
Bye For Now,
Bill
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Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
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Thursday, August 20, 2009
Monday, August 3, 2009
PERSEVERANCE AND THE PROVERBIAL DIET
A recent article said that the average American is 23 pounds overweight. Truth be told I am painfully "average". Last week I made a committment to lose 25 pounds over the next 4-6 months. Historically, once I adopt that mindset I usually succeed. I can become just as "addicted" to healthy as to unhealthy. Unhealthy is just much more fun!
Anyone who has ever tried to move the numbers on the scale back a few notches knows that perseverance is key. It is, oh so easy, to start a diet on Monday (never on Friday night) and leave it by Tuesday or Wednesday. Yet, as we have discussed in other areas, perseverance pays dividends when it comes to losing weight and getting back in shape.
From a physical and mental health point of view, the rewards are multiple. Last I went on a regimen, the tee shirt I wore said, NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS! My hope and desire is to wear that again and go from Large to Medium. I encourage you to join me by persevering in this pursuit.
Average is something I never aspired to be. I'm sure the same is true for you!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Anyone who has ever tried to move the numbers on the scale back a few notches knows that perseverance is key. It is, oh so easy, to start a diet on Monday (never on Friday night) and leave it by Tuesday or Wednesday. Yet, as we have discussed in other areas, perseverance pays dividends when it comes to losing weight and getting back in shape.
From a physical and mental health point of view, the rewards are multiple. Last I went on a regimen, the tee shirt I wore said, NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS! My hope and desire is to wear that again and go from Large to Medium. I encourage you to join me by persevering in this pursuit.
Average is something I never aspired to be. I'm sure the same is true for you!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Monday, May 4, 2009
DOING IT DIFFERENTLY
I keep thinking about how easily we get stuck in traps of our own making. Time marches on, but we have a funny way of standing still.
Our thoughts and actions are filtered by lenses that keep us in the same old spaces. New issues are met with automatic, knee jerk-- like responses. Our choices can be ridiculously redundant. Being creatures of habit can be a positive and not so positive thing, depending on the specific habit. Going to the gym and going to the bar are very different activities.
I keep asking myself, “How can I do it differently this time around? How can I avoid traps that are waiting for me up ahead? How, like the teacher played by Robin Williams in Dead Poet’s Society, can I stand on top of my desk and see things from a different angle. How can I make better, safer, healthier and more protective choices?”
I am working on these challenges. I hope you are too.
____________________________
“There’s no better measure of what people are then what they do when they are totally free to choose.”
William Belger
Bye For Now,
Bill
http://www.williampenzerphd.com/
954 475 1371 x 301
561 361 1898 x301
Our thoughts and actions are filtered by lenses that keep us in the same old spaces. New issues are met with automatic, knee jerk-- like responses. Our choices can be ridiculously redundant. Being creatures of habit can be a positive and not so positive thing, depending on the specific habit. Going to the gym and going to the bar are very different activities.
I keep asking myself, “How can I do it differently this time around? How can I avoid traps that are waiting for me up ahead? How, like the teacher played by Robin Williams in Dead Poet’s Society, can I stand on top of my desk and see things from a different angle. How can I make better, safer, healthier and more protective choices?”
I am working on these challenges. I hope you are too.
____________________________
“There’s no better measure of what people are then what they do when they are totally free to choose.”
William Belger
Bye For Now,
Bill
http://www.williampenzerphd.com/
954 475 1371 x 301
561 361 1898 x301
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
TIME TO MAKE A DEPOSIT
I believe that we all have a Pride Bank (PB) and a Shame and Blame Account (SBA) within ourselves. When we behave according to positive values we make PB deposits and when we behave in ways that cause feelings of guilt we make SBA entries. People without a conscience – the Madoffs of the world—don’t have working SBAs. In fact in a cross- wired way what for most would be SBA’s, for them are PB deposits. Sociopathy, for most of us, is not easy to understand.
Important to note for most people their PB is directly tied into their Piggy Bank. Thus money helps people to feel successful and secure. When your Piggy Bank is reduced, as most have been, it is easy for shame and blame to flow and make a mess via addictions and other hurtful behaviors.
It can be helpful to separate these three banks in your mind. You may be unemployed, losing your home or going bust, BUT you can still feel proud of your past successes, strengths, skills, potentials, loved ones, and future anticipated recovery. You can also feel proud of your ability to rise to the challenges of the moment, cut back and start anew. Your talents are the same as when the markets were up and you were doing better financially. In many ways we need to see our self as made up of many different components, one of which is our financial resources.
Most importantly, is the need not to dig your hole deeper via unhealthy SBA behaviors. It is just as easy to become addicted to healthy, stress relieving activities as unhealthy ones. Whether you make PB or SBA deposits is always a choice, We encourage you to chose that which will help refill your PB, even though your Piggy Bank is lower than you would like.
Bye For Now,
Bill
williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x301
561 361 1898 x301
Important to note for most people their PB is directly tied into their Piggy Bank. Thus money helps people to feel successful and secure. When your Piggy Bank is reduced, as most have been, it is easy for shame and blame to flow and make a mess via addictions and other hurtful behaviors.
It can be helpful to separate these three banks in your mind. You may be unemployed, losing your home or going bust, BUT you can still feel proud of your past successes, strengths, skills, potentials, loved ones, and future anticipated recovery. You can also feel proud of your ability to rise to the challenges of the moment, cut back and start anew. Your talents are the same as when the markets were up and you were doing better financially. In many ways we need to see our self as made up of many different components, one of which is our financial resources.
Most importantly, is the need not to dig your hole deeper via unhealthy SBA behaviors. It is just as easy to become addicted to healthy, stress relieving activities as unhealthy ones. Whether you make PB or SBA deposits is always a choice, We encourage you to chose that which will help refill your PB, even though your Piggy Bank is lower than you would like.
Bye For Now,
Bill
williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x301
561 361 1898 x301
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