I walked in the park Saturday morning. I passed by a group that had just finished playing basketball on a hot morning. They were sitting around shooting the shit instead of a ball. They were all thirty something by appearance and were represented by African Americans, Hispanic Americans and Caucasion Americans.
Every third word was "Fuckin". It is just amazing how many words ahead of which that word works! It may actually work in front of every noun(i.e.,shirt,shot,shit,sweat...). Well, you get the idea. As there were no young ones around,it was all harmless banter. To my ears it sounded a bit adolescent,but hey maybe I'm just an old fart!
The funny thing is that very afternoon I read about a research study in England where they found that explicatives and especially the F word helps people cope with pain better. They also found that it helped women more than men. The explanataion for that was hypothesized to be that men use the word in everyday circles much more than women and thereby desensitize its pain relieving effects.
Tell you what. You tell the basketball guys at the park!
Bye For Now,
Bill
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Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Monday, August 10, 2009
OXICLEAN vs. OXYCODONE
I was really schocked to learn that cocaine and pain pills were found in the autopsy of Billy Mays. Clearly, the liklihood is that these contributed to the heart attack he had at a relatively young age.
Though not much surprises me anymore, I believe I reacted that way because of his squeaky clean, down home, American pie image. It was that very Mr. Congeniality cool along with his loud, strong and enthused voice that sold a variety of products in several different, but market related ways. He so sold me on his image that I would have never guessed he abused drugs. You just never know.
Here is a man who had everything to live for, but left it all for what appear to be glopful addictions. Pain,no doubt contributed as it always does, but you don't do coke for pain. And, there are a variety of pain management tools other than pills. Our Tranquility/Pain Management Center offers many alternatives as do a host of available programs.
Denial keeps the glop flowing in all of us. We all believe it won't happen to us.Believe me when I say if it happened to Billy, it can happen to anyone. Let the user beware and get help before it takes you down. Addiction is a powerful and progressive disease. Oxiclean-up your act if you are doing Oxycodone or the equivilent,before you end up,like him, in the dirt!
I feel really sad for this family.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
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Though not much surprises me anymore, I believe I reacted that way because of his squeaky clean, down home, American pie image. It was that very Mr. Congeniality cool along with his loud, strong and enthused voice that sold a variety of products in several different, but market related ways. He so sold me on his image that I would have never guessed he abused drugs. You just never know.
Here is a man who had everything to live for, but left it all for what appear to be glopful addictions. Pain,no doubt contributed as it always does, but you don't do coke for pain. And, there are a variety of pain management tools other than pills. Our Tranquility/Pain Management Center offers many alternatives as do a host of available programs.
Denial keeps the glop flowing in all of us. We all believe it won't happen to us.Believe me when I say if it happened to Billy, it can happen to anyone. Let the user beware and get help before it takes you down. Addiction is a powerful and progressive disease. Oxiclean-up your act if you are doing Oxycodone or the equivilent,before you end up,like him, in the dirt!
I feel really sad for this family.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Friday, August 7, 2009
WHEN I WAS IN SIXTH GRADE..........
We sang a song--a round--which went:
Make New Friends
But Keep the Old
One is Silver
And the Other Gold.
Lately, I have pursued reunions with old friends and colleagues. It feels good on many levels. Though I am not yet that technologically advanced, it is easier than ever with Face Book, etc.
So here is a quote from "It's Never Too Late," by Patrick Lindsay:
It's never too late --
To find old friends
They're like gems.
Links to our past.
Anchors in a storm.
They bring solidity.
A chance for reflection.
A link in our life chain.
A continuum.
Think about it.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
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Make New Friends
But Keep the Old
One is Silver
And the Other Gold.
Lately, I have pursued reunions with old friends and colleagues. It feels good on many levels. Though I am not yet that technologically advanced, it is easier than ever with Face Book, etc.
So here is a quote from "It's Never Too Late," by Patrick Lindsay:
It's never too late --
To find old friends
They're like gems.
Links to our past.
Anchors in a storm.
They bring solidity.
A chance for reflection.
A link in our life chain.
A continuum.
Think about it.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Thursday, August 6, 2009
I DON''T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO SAY--HELP!
I never approached my blog without an idea in mind. I decided to live dangerously,shoot from the hip and see what happens. OMG it feels so out of control!!!
But I have changed alot in the last two years. It has been a concerted effort to not be robotized by my habits. I have worked to build choices into my life instead of routines. I have come to believe that it is important that we have multiple choices for significant behaviors and "all of the above" is not acceptable.
I encourage you to be a self-observer and see where and when you just fall into habituated behaviors that aren't healthy or self-enhancing. Then I would ask you to challenge yourself to try to do it differently and move toward healthier choices. It won't come easy or natural. If you stay with it it eventually will.
There is much reward to modifying, especially when we replace reflex, knee jerk,jerky behavior with that which is pride worthy. Try it. You might just like it.
I know I do. The payoff is in the altered pudding. Relinquishing control to gain control is a worthwhile effort--most especially when we move ourselves from dangerous to safer space.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
But I have changed alot in the last two years. It has been a concerted effort to not be robotized by my habits. I have worked to build choices into my life instead of routines. I have come to believe that it is important that we have multiple choices for significant behaviors and "all of the above" is not acceptable.
I encourage you to be a self-observer and see where and when you just fall into habituated behaviors that aren't healthy or self-enhancing. Then I would ask you to challenge yourself to try to do it differently and move toward healthier choices. It won't come easy or natural. If you stay with it it eventually will.
There is much reward to modifying, especially when we replace reflex, knee jerk,jerky behavior with that which is pride worthy. Try it. You might just like it.
I know I do. The payoff is in the altered pudding. Relinquishing control to gain control is a worthwhile effort--most especially when we move ourselves from dangerous to safer space.
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
WHEN A WALK IN THE PARK MEETS PERSEVERANCE
OK. So this is the last in the perseverance series-- at least for a while. As you know, I view it as a character trait up there with integrity, loyalty and honor.
Then again there is a fine line between persisting with perseverance and being pesty about it!
Sunday morning I decided to walk in the park. By 3/4 around the first time it was blisteringly hot--90+ according to my car thermometer at 10:30AM. It felt as if I was walking through a long, oval pizza oven.
The sweat had formed several layers on my skin. I could have shaved without cream. My shirt looked as if someone sprayed me with water. Someone could have water skied on my brow. I was dripping perspiration in pores that hadn't opened in years.
Much of my mind said, "Give it up! Go back to your car and have a cold drink and then head home." The more stubborn/persistent part of me prevailed. "Look at the guys playing soccer or even full court basketball. Look at the guys playing baseball in their jerseys and heavy wool sleeves," it said. That part of me pushed me to continue. Of course, that part of my mind forgot they were half or less my age.
Continue I did. That's perseverance!
Whether it is in the park or in other areas of your life I encourage you to keep pushing yourself to rise to the challenge and continue. I survived. The liklihood is you will too. It feels so good when we do. GO GALS, GO GUYS!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Then again there is a fine line between persisting with perseverance and being pesty about it!
Sunday morning I decided to walk in the park. By 3/4 around the first time it was blisteringly hot--90+ according to my car thermometer at 10:30AM. It felt as if I was walking through a long, oval pizza oven.
The sweat had formed several layers on my skin. I could have shaved without cream. My shirt looked as if someone sprayed me with water. Someone could have water skied on my brow. I was dripping perspiration in pores that hadn't opened in years.
Much of my mind said, "Give it up! Go back to your car and have a cold drink and then head home." The more stubborn/persistent part of me prevailed. "Look at the guys playing soccer or even full court basketball. Look at the guys playing baseball in their jerseys and heavy wool sleeves," it said. That part of me pushed me to continue. Of course, that part of my mind forgot they were half or less my age.
Continue I did. That's perseverance!
Whether it is in the park or in other areas of your life I encourage you to keep pushing yourself to rise to the challenge and continue. I survived. The liklihood is you will too. It feels so good when we do. GO GALS, GO GUYS!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
PERSEVERANCE AND RELATIONSHIPS
Nowhere is perseverance more critical than when it comes to relationships. It is so easy for things to go off track,wear down and implode. I speak here about family/collegial relationships and partnerships.
The strange and intriquing thing is that when it comes to work people have almost a natural tendency to persevere. We manage to overcome boredom,awful bossy bosses,inequities,annoying coworkers and difficult environmental conditions. Our persevering mindset allows us to overcome no matter what.
When it comes to relationships we have evolved into a disposable society.It doesn't feel good so I shall move on, stop talking, divorce, etc. Certainly there are some situations where that is most appropriate. Many times, however, there are more immediate and positive remedies and choices.
Having a relationship with anyone is not so easy for more than a weekend. Often it takes perseverance and patience to sustain a meaningful interaction. I encourage you to see it like that and not be too quick to sever all ties and abandon ship. Try your hardest to stay with the RELATION SHIP and help navigate it to calmer waters. Seek professional help sooner than later.
Bail if you have to, but try your best to find ways to accomodate and accept a less than perfect situation. When it comes to human interaction there is rarely a perfect situation. And according to some, we all pick partners who are least able to fulfill us in our most important need areas. Therein lies a street called compromise and an avenue called accomodation. Persevere when you can. There is something to be said for longevity. That comes from a man married 45+ years. It isn't always easy, but it is usually worth it. Perseverance pays!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goal
The strange and intriquing thing is that when it comes to work people have almost a natural tendency to persevere. We manage to overcome boredom,awful bossy bosses,inequities,annoying coworkers and difficult environmental conditions. Our persevering mindset allows us to overcome no matter what.
When it comes to relationships we have evolved into a disposable society.It doesn't feel good so I shall move on, stop talking, divorce, etc. Certainly there are some situations where that is most appropriate. Many times, however, there are more immediate and positive remedies and choices.
Having a relationship with anyone is not so easy for more than a weekend. Often it takes perseverance and patience to sustain a meaningful interaction. I encourage you to see it like that and not be too quick to sever all ties and abandon ship. Try your hardest to stay with the RELATION SHIP and help navigate it to calmer waters. Seek professional help sooner than later.
Bail if you have to, but try your best to find ways to accomodate and accept a less than perfect situation. When it comes to human interaction there is rarely a perfect situation. And according to some, we all pick partners who are least able to fulfill us in our most important need areas. Therein lies a street called compromise and an avenue called accomodation. Persevere when you can. There is something to be said for longevity. That comes from a man married 45+ years. It isn't always easy, but it is usually worth it. Perseverance pays!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goal
Monday, August 3, 2009
PERSEVERANCE AND THE PROVERBIAL DIET
A recent article said that the average American is 23 pounds overweight. Truth be told I am painfully "average". Last week I made a committment to lose 25 pounds over the next 4-6 months. Historically, once I adopt that mindset I usually succeed. I can become just as "addicted" to healthy as to unhealthy. Unhealthy is just much more fun!
Anyone who has ever tried to move the numbers on the scale back a few notches knows that perseverance is key. It is, oh so easy, to start a diet on Monday (never on Friday night) and leave it by Tuesday or Wednesday. Yet, as we have discussed in other areas, perseverance pays dividends when it comes to losing weight and getting back in shape.
From a physical and mental health point of view, the rewards are multiple. Last I went on a regimen, the tee shirt I wore said, NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS! My hope and desire is to wear that again and go from Large to Medium. I encourage you to join me by persevering in this pursuit.
Average is something I never aspired to be. I'm sure the same is true for you!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
Anyone who has ever tried to move the numbers on the scale back a few notches knows that perseverance is key. It is, oh so easy, to start a diet on Monday (never on Friday night) and leave it by Tuesday or Wednesday. Yet, as we have discussed in other areas, perseverance pays dividends when it comes to losing weight and getting back in shape.
From a physical and mental health point of view, the rewards are multiple. Last I went on a regimen, the tee shirt I wore said, NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS! My hope and desire is to wear that again and go from Large to Medium. I encourage you to join me by persevering in this pursuit.
Average is something I never aspired to be. I'm sure the same is true for you!
Bye For Now,
Bill
www.williampenzerphd.com
954 475 1371 x 1
561 361 1898 x 1
check 3/17 blog to know our goals
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